Welcome to Freestyle 61
So what exactly is Freestyle 61?
It's a celebration of turning 61. It's an imaginative leap and a test of courage.
Above all else, Freestyle 61 is a space for me to put my heart and soul where my mouth is. I'm going to design a year I love. Step by step. Experience by experience. Choice by choice.
Starting on April 9th 2018, I'll be creating 61 glorious activities, experiences or events that will fill this blank canvas. Wow. I'm alight with excitement, tingling with anticipation and oh so ready to colour in the textures, sights, feelings, shapes, hues and memories ahead.
I'm approaching launch day as an explorer, ready for adventure, creativity, surprise... and life!
I sat down to write a letter to myself at 61 and it emerged as a bit of a love letter manifesto. Jump over to my blog to see what will be guiding and fuelling the year ahead. You'll find something I wrote for this threshold birthday - I hope it will connect with you too. I've posted the Wild Heart audio below.
Will you join me? I'd love to know what changes you might be planning for a new phase in your life. Use the Tell Me More button to start a conversation, because journeys are just more fun with fellow-travellers!
Journal Extracts from the Freestyle 61 Journey
April 12th, 2018
I’m still feeling anxious about financial security. Money. Don’t I trust myself enough? The Catch 22 is that while my highest value is freedom, I’m worried that by jumping wholeheartedly into my own business, I’ll also be inviting financial shackles into my world. I know what I’d say to coach my clients through this - what am I saying YES to?
By launching Freestyle 61:
I’m saying YES to autonomy
I’m saying YES to my own resourcefulness
I’m saying YES to my deeper purpose
I’m saying YES to each of my highest values
I’m saying YES to living a full life
I’m saying YES to visibility
I’m saying YES to a wild heart
I’m saying YES to experimenting
And what am I saying NO to?
I’m saying NO to fear
I’m saying NO to stagnation
I’m saying NO to other people’s judgments and expectations
I’m saying NO to being small, safe and invisible
And remember, there is no such thing as a perfect decision. There are many possible ways of living a full life, and I can choose and choose again if I need to.
April 19th, 2018
The decision is cast. Like a bronze - heavy, beautiful, lasting.
April 27th, 2018
Wonderful session coaching Myra. She had a major breakthrough today on her new direction and how she wants to ‘spend’ her life. Such a shift in energy - vibrant with certainty, her values, strengths, passion and talents all aligned. Like a gong resounding through chaos. This is the reward, the magic of this career-change work!
Today I also had an email from Emily describing a sudden health scare. Life is tenuous. This hit me right between the eyes. I’m even more certain now that this is the right time to commit to conscious choices. To reject sleep-walking.
May 3rd, 2018
This was a week when I felt steam-rollered, deflated, knocked for six. Stomach knotty. Head achey. Stomach clenched. Where I thought I had made a choice, it seems airing my plans with the wrong people at the wrong time has left me ripped inside out. It took several days for this whirlwind to storm through. I’m out the other side and the skies are starting to clear again. I’ve recovered my values, the meaning I want to express and (thanks heaven for self-coaching), I’m regaining myself and letting go of: tension, anxiety, agonising, push, struggle, must, should. Listen to my intuition, to my wiser self. The palm tree, swaying gently in the tropical storm, rooted in the right ground.
May 7th, 2018
8.40 p.m. - I knew I was back when I started singing in the kitchen.
I hadn’t realised I’d lost my song. And now it’s back.
May 24th, 2018
Today I resigned. Today I started to relish the pleasure of my choice.
Having lunch with Lynne and she really gets it. Like my coaching buddies, she understand, she cheers me on! Bring on more Lynnes!
June 12th, 2018
I felt some insistent nudges from my intuition. I felt compelled to review my word for the year - half way through 2018 and time to see if it still fits.
Two surprises (and yet, the clues were all there): 1) my new word is LIGHTNESS 2) I’ve flouted the rules and adopted a second one - SAVOUR.
Rule-breaking is the way to go!
June 20th, 2018
Another energising and creative lunch with Lynne. We stumbled into the idea of giving ourselves permission to get it wrong. And permission to learn from that and build the next prototype. Permission slips are wonderful things. We all need someone in our lives to grant us permission to chase our dreams, try it out, start again when we stumble. And if we don’t have someone to issue those permission slips, we really have to do it for ourselves!
July 4th, 2018
I wondered today whether I was not playing it safe? How BIG could I make F61? How about a tour of Mallorca for my road trip? Or Cornwall?
July 7th, 2018
Wow! There was a creative and heartfelt tornado I hadn’t seen coming. I went to a wonderful event about ‘persuasion’ at what turned out to be an inspiring venue. The Brickhouse Vineyard near Mamhead - it got beneath my skin, made my heart sing and words flow. A new poem (after so long!) And a poem that ended with the words: ‘I’m home’.
Huge wave of emotion. Release. Homecoming. I’m in the right place. Doing the right work. In the best way I can. Home.
I couldn’t shake off the magic of that place. Another realisation - location is hugely important to me. I can only flourish in the right setting.
Go into new spaces, meet new people, follow your interests - rich rewards present themselves in the most surprising places.
July 13th, 2018
In my coaching group today, the question was posed: What do you want your summer to look like?
This is why I love coaching. It asks the best questions.
July 25th, 2018
Woke to yet another hot and sunny day. This summer is amazing. I’m feeling regenerated. As I woke, I caught something from the corner of my eye. As the day wore on, this germ of an idea grew and wouldn’t be ignored. By the end of the day, I had an inspiring new idea. A product that will enrich clients. And I have to prototype this (shucks!) Filled with excitement and purpose. Road-trip to Cornwall here I come!
July 30th, 2018
Is this my wild card? Today I was invited to do a fashion photoshoot for Prima magazine. Woo-hoo!
August 15th, 2018
After months of planning, agonising, doubting and being certain (often all at once!) - today was my last day as an employee. Sweet. Sad. Complicated. A celebration. Cutting loose and setting sail. A little becalmed. A full heart, a fair forecast, and wide turquoise oceans ahead.
August 23rd, 2018
Today I designated a writing day. I’m relishing this freedom to choose, adapt, flex. Turning to the sun.
Freestyle 61 - the book - is born!
August 31st, 2018
High sun beating down. I packed a beach bag and made today a work-at-the-beach-day. I took my reading, planning and portable work, took the hood down and drove to the coast. Finally. Living it. ‘Location-independent’ - not Bali perhaps, but Dawlish Warren is a start!
Sep 5th, 2018
Today I realised that my car, a VW Eos shares the name with the goddess of the dawn. Who knew? That car truly chose me when I was at the threshold of a very new phase of my life. Starting out alone after 24 years overseas. Dawn indeed.
Oct 12th, 2018
Spending the weekend with my eldest son, his wife, their two little children and my youngest son. Blissed! Feels totally joined up to tell them about this project, my work and how it all connects.
Oct 29th, 2018
Strange how things connect, come together. Sometimes, not thinking, forcing or planning reaps rewards. (I know this - LIGHTNESS - but seem to forget it too!)
Put something out there. Good things appear. A flurry of new leads and clients. Timing is a bit of a mystery. I love the unpredictability of it!